Overcoming Self-Doubt And Sharing More Creativity

[self-doubt] def: “lack of confidence in the reliability of one’s own motives, personality, thought…

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Self-doubt. A feeling we harbour internally, and one we have to deal with if we are to progress further with our goals. Last week, I wrote a piece titled There Is More To You Than Yesterday” centred around the theme of New Beginnings which I’ve chosen to write about throughout this month, focusing on positive affirmations, weekly motivations to help us excel and succeed this year. Three weeks into January, you may have started to feel weighed down or still in the festive slump, patiently waiting for January to draw to a close.

The reason I’ve written this post is because it’s something I relate to personally and have chosen to combat this year. As a content creator/influencer/blogger, whatever you want to call it, it’s easy to fall off your path of creativity due to the increased competition, pressure of social media and simply because we feel as if people are just not interested in what we create. We also know that a majority of people don’t actually respect the influencer industry and still hold judgement against content creators regarding their ACTUAL jobs. There are tons of articles that continuously bash influencers because of their chosen line of work. So, OF COURSE we’re going to get stressed, demotivated, feel useless and even doubt our abilities but what can YOU do to overcome self-doubt?

Self-doubt sabotages creativity. Believe in yourself. Believe in your art.

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“the worst enemy of creativity is self-doubt.”

- Sylvia Plath.”


Remember each of us have a story to share. Whatever you choose to publish or create could be inspiring a reader so never lose confidence in your work.

Remember don’t worry about other people’s judgement.

Remember to manage negative thoughts and feelings, find a way to keep going.

Remember self-doubt is a story you’ve conjured up in your mind. You are in control of your thoughts, how are you choosing to rewrite this story?

Remember why you create. Three words that I live by when it comes to my blog: “Aspire to Inspire.” I’ve created this platform to not just document my personal style journey but also be a one stop destination where each of you lovely readers can refer back to for encouragement and motivation. Yes, style is fun but let’s get real about some of the issues that are holding us back from reaching our full potential.

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Remember to take small steps. Don’t be in a hurry or rush to get EVERYTHING done by a specific time. Remain self-disciplined and work daily on your goals, yes. However, sometimes we get so carried away by how quickly others in our niche or industries are growing, that it then allows self comparison to creep in, which can take its toll emotionally and mentally if not managed.

Remember it’s okay to soak up inspiration and admiration for other creatives. Heck, I’m ALWAYS stalking some of my favourite influencers, for content inspiration - ideas on how to style certain items in my wardrobe or how to create content around a particular subject which I’m passionate about. Seeking inspiration is key as a content creator or fellow creative, to further develop your content. Enjoy being around your fellow creatives or engaging with them, without trashing yourself in the process.


“Don’t allow someone else’s talent negate or hinder your own creativity.”

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Remember to surround yourself with positive and supportive people. This could be your inner circle or some fellow creatives you’ve buddied up with on social media. They’re more than likely able to relate to the struggle and can offer up some advice on how they’re dealing with the same issues. Sometimes engaging in conversations around the things bothering us the most can make us feel better, and motivate us to get back on track.

Remember to find what puts you in your creative zone. It could be journalling, going out for a walk, booking a weekend trip away or just putting your favourite song on blast!


“Overcoming self-doubt involves believing that you can do it, accepting your strengths and limitations, fixing what you can, and then taking a risk by moving forward, even if you don’t have all the answers.”

- Carla Sonheim

I’m still trying to implement my own advice daily but thought I’d just share some things that can really help overcome self-doubt and inspire you to share more of your creativity. I’m choosing to utilise all my God-given talents and skills to the best of my ability, to not look back and keep going. I get so much positive feedback around the content I create, but have struggled to actually accept the feedback in some way if that makes sense? I’ve always felt like I could be and should be doing more, while that’s true, it’s come from a place of comparison to my peers and the feeling of ‘not being good enough.’

I’m learning to continuously be true to myself across all my platforms and to adapt a positive mindset. I hope this post can encourage you and as always, I’d love to hear your thoughts around this!

Until next time,

Eunice x

PHOTOGRAPHY BY    Fordtography

PHOTOGRAPHY BY Fordtography

There is more to you than yesterday...

Image via Tumblr

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Hello all! I hope you’re having a wonderful start to the New Year and have taken as much downtime as needed! As we head back into reality after a lovely festive break, I’d love to send out some encouragement this month to help you smash all your personal, career and business goals!

Following on from my 2018 reflection post, here, January is a month where I’m reflecting on my previous successes and failures and identifying ways of turning those failures into successes in 2019. To inspire me on my journey, I’ve been declaring some positive affirmations and seeking inspiration whilst I work on my goals daily. The theme this month is ‘New Beginnings.”

Some things I battled with in 2018 included, self doubt, worry, anxiety, the fear of loneliness and insecurity. This year I release myself from:

Negative thoughts

I will stop dwelling and instead, choose to refocus my mind. I am loved and wrapped in endless boundless grace.

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Self Condemnation - the feeling of not being good enough

I choose to live free from fear and free from other people’s opinions/perceptions of me. I choose to turn my mind from everything I am not to everything I am.

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Pain and insecurity

I will live the life that God has given me to the fullest. I will no longer be afraid to take a leap of faith. I will go forth, shine and do that which my heart desires to do.

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Having everything figured out

I may not be where I want to be right now but that does not mean I won’t get there. I am grateful for how far God has brought me, for the blessings I’ve received and for the ones still on their way.

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Anxiety

I will no longer worry about what the future may hold for me, my career, my relationships and my family. Instead, I will put all trust and hope in the Lord as He knows my beginning and end which gives me comfort and joy to live with peace of mind.

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Photography by    Fordtography

Photography by Fordtography

SHOP THE LOOK

Social Media: How To Take Back Control

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“Social media is ruining my life.”

“Im addicted to social media.”

“I’m taking a break from social media..”

Above are some of the common phrases I hear my peers use when the subject of social media arises. According to research “social media triggers a dopamine high” - a neurochemical released in our brain just like food, sex or drugs. This is where the feeling of addiction derives from or the need to be constantly “in the know”, which creates fear in missing out on stuff when we’ve gotten so used to absorbing all the information that social media provides.

The aim of this article isn’t to encourage you to abandon the world of social media or discourage the love/hate relationship you have for it. There’s so much negativity associated with the words ‘social media’ but how can you turn it into a positive medium without it overwhelming your life?

Despite our many efforts of just unwinding and taking a break from social media, there’s no doubt that whilst trying to do so, we feel antsy and anxious when resisting the urge to check our Instagram feeds, Twitter or Facebook (if anyone even uses that on a regular anymore!) even for a split second. Others may beg to differ but social media isn’t wicked, “it’s how we use it that makes it a bad influence on us.” (Anna Chui)

“The biggest fear of quitting or pausing social media is missing out.”

So now for the best part - let me share how YOU can take back control of social media rather than it control you! The following tips/tricks will help you strike the right balance when it comes to social media use within your daily lifestyle. If you’ve ever felt pressured or are feeling pressured to be constantly active on social media and it’s become overwhelming, then keep reading!

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Creating a healthy balance

To get down to the root of the problem is to firstly identify it. Assess your current relationship with social media and find ways on how you can create the right balance. The way I’ve started incorporating this method is by checking my social media platforms during my work commute and snuggled up in bed in the evenings just before I make my way to dreamland. Let’s be real - as a content creator one of the most important things about what we do is engagement.

So if it means spending 30 mins to 1 hour during my daily commute and in the evenings scrolling on my feed then so be it! I want to keep up with what my friends are up to and delve into all the inspiration my fellow content creators are sharing. But how am I trying to balance this? Well, I work in an office so during the day I try to resist the ‘itch’ to pick up my phone and give in to the allure of endless scrolling. This way I’m improving my productivity, having meaningful and ‘banterful’ interactions with my colleagues as well as expanding my knowledge in the industry.

Over the last year, I’ve read so much about the dark side of social media - the addiction and breach of privacy. As human beings, we have a natural habit of placing the blame of how we feel, think, behave on others. Can the same be applied in this case? At the end of the day, the way we consume social media is up to us. We feel bombarded with all the content thrust upon us and feel as if there’s no escape which isn’t entirely true.

Discipline yourself and create time limits on the apps you’re using.

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Relationships

Whether you’re a content creator, entrepreneur or just a normal social user, the common factor here is that we’re utilising social media applications to enhance our relationships. We didn’t sign up for dysfunctional living so the key here is taking this need offline. As a content creator how can you take your relationships offline? Well, why not research local or national networking events. I’m LOVING all the blogger brunches and social events that are popping up on my Instagram feeds - not only are they a great way to meet new people or catch up with your ‘blogger babes,’ but they also aid in enabling creativity and longevity in content production, elevating your brand thus granting you a successful, fulfilling career.

Similarly, if your excessive social media usage is due to your love of seeing other people’s travel photos, then why not try saving up for a solo/group trip with your friends and capture your own memories! A real world activity that can bring so much pleasure and joy to your life while making memories that would have never existed if you spent your whole time scrolling through your Instagram feed.

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Blocking out the noise

Surrounding yourself with positive energy doesn’t just apply to offline relationships. For the sake of your mental health, it’s important to bring this same energy to your social feed. Unfollow accounts that may ignite negative emotions, even if it’s your favourite influencer, DO IT! Keep yourself motivated, inspired and encouraged offline AND online.

Delete and mute!

Ever since I deleted my Snapchat, not only has my battery life improved but I’ve gotten rid of all the nonsense that I was constantly exposing myself to. I asked myself: “Is this app really benefiting me in any way? Will this app aid in the success of my brand?” The answer was obviously ‘No’ so I held down that app and clicked X. I’ve got a long way to go when it comes to muting notifications and deleting unnecessary apps but that was definitely a step towards the right direction.

Social media updates are so distracting and disruptive which can lead to “reduced attention, productivity and effectiveness at tasks.” (The Conversation, 2018) So decide whether you want to ditch the notifications by turning them off or make a conscious decision to not let them disrupt you.

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Conclusion

The reality is that social media isn’t leaving anytime soon - technology is becoming more advanced. You can take back control of social media rather than it controlling you. As mentioned above, sometimes our excessive use of social platforms derive from the obsession we have with keeping up with another person’s lifestyle. When we realise that the key here is spending more quality time in real life, this will enable us to create a healthy balance between the two and start to shift our perception of social media.

“If you are trying to meet certain needs through your social media use, then figuring out other ways to meet these same needs in healthier ways can be very enlightening.” (Talkspace, 2018)

A Beginner's Guide To Building A Capsule Wardrobe

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Struggling to make the most out of your current items in your wardrobe? Or would you like to know how to build a capsule wardrobe while still being stylish? Look no further! This article will show you how to give your loved pieces new life and how to perfect the art of capsuling.

Before we delve any deeper, it’s important to know what capsuling actually means. Capsuling can be described as refining or editing your current wardrobe down to your favourite pieces. This will most likely be clothes that suit your lifestyle at this present time, can be used to create new looks, offer versatility thereby enabling you to shop less, more intentionally and consciously.

With the growing number of millennials, speaking about sustainable/ethical/slow fashion, it appears that there is an inner desire to shop more sustainably but a “disconnect exists between what clothes want and what clothes they actually buy.” (BBN Times, 2018) Money is a major factor which drives decision. With fast fashion becoming so readily available, it’s easy to splurge excessively on the latest “new arrivals.” Fashion drives consumption through the exposure of peer-pressure via social media.

But how can we work collectively to shop less and combat over consumerism?

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This is where building a minimalist capsule wardrobe can really resist the urges. A capsule will normally consist of “a set number of pieces of clothing that you wear for a season before starting the next capsule.” (Fashionista, 2017) You’ll focus on adding some new items (don’t forget, based on your lifestyle and what your wardrobe is currently lacking) at the start of your capsule. It’ll allow you to re-wear, remix and re-create rather than ‘swiping up’ in your favourite influencer’s Instagram Story to shop her latest ‘new arrivals” every. single. day.

We’ve all heard the phrase "less is more” but how many of us are actually living up to this? Well, a capsule wardrobe will help you live it out in a realistic way. After making the decision to capsule, the method has controlled my shopping habits. It has helped develop my personal style, save a lot of wardrobe and room space as well as improving my environmental and social responsibility - donating to/supporting charitable causes and reducing impact on landfills.

Here’s how to build your own capsule wardrobe:

Empty out that wardrobe!

So let’s say, you’re in the middle of putting your Autumn/Winter pieces together and you’ve decided to only wear these pieces until the end of the season - you’ll need to make sure that you’re picking those pieces mindfully. The first step is to take a look at what’s lying around in your closet.

What helped me was, literally, tossing every jean, sweater, t-shirt, coat, jacket, onto my bed and only adding back the items that I truly loved. It’s an eye-opener and makes you notice the percentage of items you wear regularly. It helped me to decide what I’d hand-down and donate to my local charity shops.

There’s something so satisfying about laying everything out and getting a close view of what you already own and what works well together. I’ve been able to stick to a neutral/muted colour palette as that’s what the majority of my wardrobe is made up of. Important note: if you’re ‘umming’ and ‘ahhing’ about a specific item, it’s a sign that you need to let it go!

Try and limit your capsule to about 35 pieces consisting of tops, bottoms, dresses, outerwear and shoes. While doing so, ask yourself a couple of questions: Can I style this in numerous ways? Is it something I’ll actually wear regularly rather than occasionally? Is it season/weather friendly? Is it durable - can I trust it to last through to the end of the season with repeated wear?

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Pack unwanted items

Once you’ve mindfully selected your capsule pieces, pack everything else and keep it out of sight! It’s so tempting to have a rummage through the black bag of unwanted items now and again, because we’ve gotten bored of what we already have.

Have you got a Depop account? You might even consider re-selling some quality pieces over there. Think of it this way - you’e giving your clothing new life to somebody else. As mentioned above, I donate my old/unwanted items to local charity shops with the intent to keep it in circulation.

Stick with it for three months or until the end of the season

Now you’ve got your capsule and you’re ready to start living in it! The aim here is to only wear the pieces you’ve selected in your capsule, for three months or until the end of the season. I’ve challenged myself to wear my capsule pieces until the end of Winter, hopefully.

Yes, you’ll get bored and will continuously be tempted by the latest fresh, new in pieces but look at the positive side of it - it can certainly help you find your personal style, identify what works best for you and get your creative juices flowing as you consistently create new ensembles that you probably would never have thought of. Most importantly - you’ll be saving money!

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Start all over again!

As you’re nearing the end of your three months or season, you’ll be in a good place to reflect on what worked for you and what didn’t. Did you inject too much colour/prints into your wardrobe, and later realised that you’re a minimalist who just lives in white, grey and black? These discoveries will aid in planning your capsule for the next season. The best part? Being able to fill any gaps in your wardrobe with new items that will work throughout the new season. Notice how you’d only be shopping for pieces at the beginning of each new season, consciously and intentionally.

On a final note, my move towards capsuling honestly feels like weight that has been lifted off my shoulders (or should I say, purse!) as I now have the freedom to remix my key pieces regularly. At the beginning of the season, I made a list of some core items I need to see me through Autumn/Winter. It won’t be easy but I do enjoy a challenge so here’s one for you!

I challenge everyone reading this post, to create a capsule wardrobe for at least three months, documenting your journey through your preferred social media platform (this will probably be Instagram for most people!) or create 10 looks for 10 days using clothing/accessories already in your wardrobe. (make sure to tag me in your posts!)

If you’d rather skip the above challenge and would rather pop me an email or message on Instagram for further advice then feel free to do so. Comments are also welcome below as I’d love to know your thoughts on this post :)

Thanks for reading,

Eunice x

Autumn/Winter Style Inspiration

Moodboard for everyday workwear inspiration and casual weekend getaways.

Image source: Pinterest

Unravelling The Layers - Inspiration For The Lingerie Edit

Moodboard curated for a lingerie edit titled ‘Unravelling The Layers

Image source: Tumblr, Pinterest, Madewell.

Pre-Fall Style Inspiration

Key pieces for the Autumn/Winter transition.

Image source: Tumblr, Pinterest, Khaite Pre Fall 2018 - Vogue UK.

Packing Light For A Weekend City Trip

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Howdy, everyone! A group getaway has been planned - 4 nights in Budapest, yay! I’ll be travelling with 14 of the most craziest humans and we’ll all be staying in an AirBnb apartment. I can't even begin to tell you guys how excited I am, for the endless laughter, fun and sheer madness. Now it’s time to think about how I can pack strategically, efficiently and even stylishly.

I’ve always been that girl who packs the same amount of items as if I was packing for one week, resulting in an overload of items that do not work well together, therefore unable to wear. It’s worse when you’ve prepared to take that perfect #ootd shot and realise that all you’ve done is throw random pieces of clothing into a suitcase. I’m definitely speaking from experience and have realised that less is actually more. This is why I've decided to publish an article titled 'Packing Light For A Weekend Trip.'

Gone are the days where I feel the need to pack an entire closet. I’ve created two mood boards to convey my ideas and hope that it can be a source of inspiration to anyone struggling with packing light for a short trip. Thank God for Tumblr and Pinterest as I can rely on both platforms to provide me with a daily dose of inspiration. I mean that’s how I discovered It girl, Jeanne Damas who is the epitome of chic and has influenced my perception of style tremendously.

A good rule of thumb that I've adopted is editing down my clothing choices to simple essentials. For a weekend break, I've limited myself to about three to six outfits, evening wear included. I'm sticking to one colour story - solids and soft neutrals which will mainly be worn with denim and styled with gold jewellery. Urban sojourns call for longline coats (I only bring one coat and that's the one I'm normally wearing to and from the airport and in black or navy), a blazer, one or two shirts, two pairs of jeans (straight leg jeans are currently my favourite!), three to four jumpers and two or three pairs of shoes depending on what you're doing - black heels, a pair of boots and sneakers. That doesn't sound too bad right?

When it comes to planning outfits for a night out in the city, it's an absolute nightmare which I'm sure you can all agree with. Like how do you flaunt those legs without freezing your a*s off? I'm not a fan of the good old 20 denier hosiery so 99.9% of the time I suck it up and just bare it all. For Budapest, I'm going for chic and elevated:

Classic Black Blazer

Oversized Check Blazer

Straight Leg Jeans

Black Heels

A Pair of Ankle Boots

Silk Blouse

Skinny Jeans

A Little Black Dress

All of the above can easily be styled with a longline coat for extra warmth whilst strolling from bar to bar but being the rebel that I am, I'm more than likely going to ditch the coat.

I'll be capturing all my outfits for the duration of my stay so keep an eye out on fashionenth for all the #ootds. Have you got any trips planned in the new year? I'd love to know how you're planning on packing light for your weekend trip!

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images sourced from Tumblr & Pinterest.