Overcoming Self-Doubt And Sharing More Creativity

[self-doubt] def: “lack of confidence in the reliability of one’s own motives, personality, thought…

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Self-doubt. A feeling we harbour internally, and one we have to deal with if we are to progress further with our goals. Last week, I wrote a piece titled There Is More To You Than Yesterday” centred around the theme of New Beginnings which I’ve chosen to write about throughout this month, focusing on positive affirmations, weekly motivations to help us excel and succeed this year. Three weeks into January, you may have started to feel weighed down or still in the festive slump, patiently waiting for January to draw to a close.

The reason I’ve written this post is because it’s something I relate to personally and have chosen to combat this year. As a content creator/influencer/blogger, whatever you want to call it, it’s easy to fall off your path of creativity due to the increased competition, pressure of social media and simply because we feel as if people are just not interested in what we create. We also know that a majority of people don’t actually respect the influencer industry and still hold judgement against content creators regarding their ACTUAL jobs. There are tons of articles that continuously bash influencers because of their chosen line of work. So, OF COURSE we’re going to get stressed, demotivated, feel useless and even doubt our abilities but what can YOU do to overcome self-doubt?

Self-doubt sabotages creativity. Believe in yourself. Believe in your art.

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“the worst enemy of creativity is self-doubt.”

- Sylvia Plath.”


Remember each of us have a story to share. Whatever you choose to publish or create could be inspiring a reader so never lose confidence in your work.

Remember don’t worry about other people’s judgement.

Remember to manage negative thoughts and feelings, find a way to keep going.

Remember self-doubt is a story you’ve conjured up in your mind. You are in control of your thoughts, how are you choosing to rewrite this story?

Remember why you create. Three words that I live by when it comes to my blog: “Aspire to Inspire.” I’ve created this platform to not just document my personal style journey but also be a one stop destination where each of you lovely readers can refer back to for encouragement and motivation. Yes, style is fun but let’s get real about some of the issues that are holding us back from reaching our full potential.

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Remember to take small steps. Don’t be in a hurry or rush to get EVERYTHING done by a specific time. Remain self-disciplined and work daily on your goals, yes. However, sometimes we get so carried away by how quickly others in our niche or industries are growing, that it then allows self comparison to creep in, which can take its toll emotionally and mentally if not managed.

Remember it’s okay to soak up inspiration and admiration for other creatives. Heck, I’m ALWAYS stalking some of my favourite influencers, for content inspiration - ideas on how to style certain items in my wardrobe or how to create content around a particular subject which I’m passionate about. Seeking inspiration is key as a content creator or fellow creative, to further develop your content. Enjoy being around your fellow creatives or engaging with them, without trashing yourself in the process.


“Don’t allow someone else’s talent negate or hinder your own creativity.”

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Remember to surround yourself with positive and supportive people. This could be your inner circle or some fellow creatives you’ve buddied up with on social media. They’re more than likely able to relate to the struggle and can offer up some advice on how they’re dealing with the same issues. Sometimes engaging in conversations around the things bothering us the most can make us feel better, and motivate us to get back on track.

Remember to find what puts you in your creative zone. It could be journalling, going out for a walk, booking a weekend trip away or just putting your favourite song on blast!


“Overcoming self-doubt involves believing that you can do it, accepting your strengths and limitations, fixing what you can, and then taking a risk by moving forward, even if you don’t have all the answers.”

- Carla Sonheim

I’m still trying to implement my own advice daily but thought I’d just share some things that can really help overcome self-doubt and inspire you to share more of your creativity. I’m choosing to utilise all my God-given talents and skills to the best of my ability, to not look back and keep going. I get so much positive feedback around the content I create, but have struggled to actually accept the feedback in some way if that makes sense? I’ve always felt like I could be and should be doing more, while that’s true, it’s come from a place of comparison to my peers and the feeling of ‘not being good enough.’

I’m learning to continuously be true to myself across all my platforms and to adapt a positive mindset. I hope this post can encourage you and as always, I’d love to hear your thoughts around this!

Until next time,

Eunice x

PHOTOGRAPHY BY    Fordtography

PHOTOGRAPHY BY Fordtography

There is more to you than yesterday...

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Hello all! I hope you’re having a wonderful start to the New Year and have taken as much downtime as needed! As we head back into reality after a lovely festive break, I’d love to send out some encouragement this month to help you smash all your personal, career and business goals!

Following on from my 2018 reflection post, here, January is a month where I’m reflecting on my previous successes and failures and identifying ways of turning those failures into successes in 2019. To inspire me on my journey, I’ve been declaring some positive affirmations and seeking inspiration whilst I work on my goals daily. The theme this month is ‘New Beginnings.”

Some things I battled with in 2018 included, self doubt, worry, anxiety, the fear of loneliness and insecurity. This year I release myself from:

Negative thoughts

I will stop dwelling and instead, choose to refocus my mind. I am loved and wrapped in endless boundless grace.

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Self Condemnation - the feeling of not being good enough

I choose to live free from fear and free from other people’s opinions/perceptions of me. I choose to turn my mind from everything I am not to everything I am.

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Pain and insecurity

I will live the life that God has given me to the fullest. I will no longer be afraid to take a leap of faith. I will go forth, shine and do that which my heart desires to do.

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Having everything figured out

I may not be where I want to be right now but that does not mean I won’t get there. I am grateful for how far God has brought me, for the blessings I’ve received and for the ones still on their way.

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Anxiety

I will no longer worry about what the future may hold for me, my career, my relationships and my family. Instead, I will put all trust and hope in the Lord as He knows my beginning and end which gives me comfort and joy to live with peace of mind.

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Photography by    Fordtography

Photography by Fordtography

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It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year : Reflecting on 2018

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Hello you lovely lot! I’m pleased to say that Christmas is only a matter of days away and I literally cannot contain my excitement. Don’t worry, this post isn’t another Christmas gift guide or ‘Lookbook’ but rather, just some festive chit chat before THE day.

Christmas is always a special time for me as I get to reconnect with my friends from back home in Ireland and reunite with my family for yet another Christmas meal consisting of endless laughter and fun.

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Prior to the festive period, I decided to shoot some content with Alisha during my stay at Kilmorey Lodge in Chester. I had a 4 day weekend so I wanted to use this time to relax, prepare my mindset for the new year as well as take some time to reflect on 2018. Oh what a year! Filled with many memories that I’ll treasure forever.

This particular weekend, was a time for me to take a breather, look back on a great year and plan for 2019. Although I did manage to tick off travelling off my bucket list, I could have committed myself more to reaching the desired goals set out earlier this year. But not to worry, we bounce back again in 2019!

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I’ve learnt to appreciate life despite the outcomes and the ups/downs and truly just live in the moment. 2018 has been a year where I’ve purposely surrounded myself with positivity. From workplace environments to friendships and social media, I’ve removed myself from things and people that contribute or have the effect to impact my mental health negatively.

2018 has in no doubt, been a wonderful year - I’m grateful for the gift of life, my friends and family.

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I’ve decided that this will be my last post in 2018 as I really just want to spend the next week or two celebrating and being part of the festivities rather than worry about the “next blog post.” My use of social media will probably be limited too with less on my feed with the possibility of sharing some lovely moments on my Stories. At the end of the day, it’s about finding a balance, which I’ve discussed, here. Because let’s be real here - we’re not cutting out social media completely during this period!

Anyways, I’m wishing you all a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year in advance. Thank you for your lovely support in 2018 and I look forward to bringing you some fresh content in 2019!

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Social Media: How To Take Back Control

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“Social media is ruining my life.”

“Im addicted to social media.”

“I’m taking a break from social media..”

Above are some of the common phrases I hear my peers use when the subject of social media arises. According to research “social media triggers a dopamine high” - a neurochemical released in our brain just like food, sex or drugs. This is where the feeling of addiction derives from or the need to be constantly “in the know”, which creates fear in missing out on stuff when we’ve gotten so used to absorbing all the information that social media provides.

The aim of this article isn’t to encourage you to abandon the world of social media or discourage the love/hate relationship you have for it. There’s so much negativity associated with the words ‘social media’ but how can you turn it into a positive medium without it overwhelming your life?

Despite our many efforts of just unwinding and taking a break from social media, there’s no doubt that whilst trying to do so, we feel antsy and anxious when resisting the urge to check our Instagram feeds, Twitter or Facebook (if anyone even uses that on a regular anymore!) even for a split second. Others may beg to differ but social media isn’t wicked, “it’s how we use it that makes it a bad influence on us.” (Anna Chui)

“The biggest fear of quitting or pausing social media is missing out.”

So now for the best part - let me share how YOU can take back control of social media rather than it control you! The following tips/tricks will help you strike the right balance when it comes to social media use within your daily lifestyle. If you’ve ever felt pressured or are feeling pressured to be constantly active on social media and it’s become overwhelming, then keep reading!

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Creating a healthy balance

To get down to the root of the problem is to firstly identify it. Assess your current relationship with social media and find ways on how you can create the right balance. The way I’ve started incorporating this method is by checking my social media platforms during my work commute and snuggled up in bed in the evenings just before I make my way to dreamland. Let’s be real - as a content creator one of the most important things about what we do is engagement.

So if it means spending 30 mins to 1 hour during my daily commute and in the evenings scrolling on my feed then so be it! I want to keep up with what my friends are up to and delve into all the inspiration my fellow content creators are sharing. But how am I trying to balance this? Well, I work in an office so during the day I try to resist the ‘itch’ to pick up my phone and give in to the allure of endless scrolling. This way I’m improving my productivity, having meaningful and ‘banterful’ interactions with my colleagues as well as expanding my knowledge in the industry.

Over the last year, I’ve read so much about the dark side of social media - the addiction and breach of privacy. As human beings, we have a natural habit of placing the blame of how we feel, think, behave on others. Can the same be applied in this case? At the end of the day, the way we consume social media is up to us. We feel bombarded with all the content thrust upon us and feel as if there’s no escape which isn’t entirely true.

Discipline yourself and create time limits on the apps you’re using.

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Relationships

Whether you’re a content creator, entrepreneur or just a normal social user, the common factor here is that we’re utilising social media applications to enhance our relationships. We didn’t sign up for dysfunctional living so the key here is taking this need offline. As a content creator how can you take your relationships offline? Well, why not research local or national networking events. I’m LOVING all the blogger brunches and social events that are popping up on my Instagram feeds - not only are they a great way to meet new people or catch up with your ‘blogger babes,’ but they also aid in enabling creativity and longevity in content production, elevating your brand thus granting you a successful, fulfilling career.

Similarly, if your excessive social media usage is due to your love of seeing other people’s travel photos, then why not try saving up for a solo/group trip with your friends and capture your own memories! A real world activity that can bring so much pleasure and joy to your life while making memories that would have never existed if you spent your whole time scrolling through your Instagram feed.

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Blocking out the noise

Surrounding yourself with positive energy doesn’t just apply to offline relationships. For the sake of your mental health, it’s important to bring this same energy to your social feed. Unfollow accounts that may ignite negative emotions, even if it’s your favourite influencer, DO IT! Keep yourself motivated, inspired and encouraged offline AND online.

Delete and mute!

Ever since I deleted my Snapchat, not only has my battery life improved but I’ve gotten rid of all the nonsense that I was constantly exposing myself to. I asked myself: “Is this app really benefiting me in any way? Will this app aid in the success of my brand?” The answer was obviously ‘No’ so I held down that app and clicked X. I’ve got a long way to go when it comes to muting notifications and deleting unnecessary apps but that was definitely a step towards the right direction.

Social media updates are so distracting and disruptive which can lead to “reduced attention, productivity and effectiveness at tasks.” (The Conversation, 2018) So decide whether you want to ditch the notifications by turning them off or make a conscious decision to not let them disrupt you.

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Conclusion

The reality is that social media isn’t leaving anytime soon - technology is becoming more advanced. You can take back control of social media rather than it controlling you. As mentioned above, sometimes our excessive use of social platforms derive from the obsession we have with keeping up with another person’s lifestyle. When we realise that the key here is spending more quality time in real life, this will enable us to create a healthy balance between the two and start to shift our perception of social media.

“If you are trying to meet certain needs through your social media use, then figuring out other ways to meet these same needs in healthier ways can be very enlightening.” (Talkspace, 2018)

A Beginner's Guide To Building A Capsule Wardrobe

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Struggling to make the most out of your current items in your wardrobe? Or would you like to know how to build a capsule wardrobe while still being stylish? Look no further! This article will show you how to give your loved pieces new life and how to perfect the art of capsuling.

Before we delve any deeper, it’s important to know what capsuling actually means. Capsuling can be described as refining or editing your current wardrobe down to your favourite pieces. This will most likely be clothes that suit your lifestyle at this present time, can be used to create new looks, offer versatility thereby enabling you to shop less, more intentionally and consciously.

With the growing number of millennials, speaking about sustainable/ethical/slow fashion, it appears that there is an inner desire to shop more sustainably but a “disconnect exists between what clothes want and what clothes they actually buy.” (BBN Times, 2018) Money is a major factor which drives decision. With fast fashion becoming so readily available, it’s easy to splurge excessively on the latest “new arrivals.” Fashion drives consumption through the exposure of peer-pressure via social media.

But how can we work collectively to shop less and combat over consumerism?

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This is where building a minimalist capsule wardrobe can really resist the urges. A capsule will normally consist of “a set number of pieces of clothing that you wear for a season before starting the next capsule.” (Fashionista, 2017) You’ll focus on adding some new items (don’t forget, based on your lifestyle and what your wardrobe is currently lacking) at the start of your capsule. It’ll allow you to re-wear, remix and re-create rather than ‘swiping up’ in your favourite influencer’s Instagram Story to shop her latest ‘new arrivals” every. single. day.

We’ve all heard the phrase "less is more” but how many of us are actually living up to this? Well, a capsule wardrobe will help you live it out in a realistic way. After making the decision to capsule, the method has controlled my shopping habits. It has helped develop my personal style, save a lot of wardrobe and room space as well as improving my environmental and social responsibility - donating to/supporting charitable causes and reducing impact on landfills.

Here’s how to build your own capsule wardrobe:

Empty out that wardrobe!

So let’s say, you’re in the middle of putting your Autumn/Winter pieces together and you’ve decided to only wear these pieces until the end of the season - you’ll need to make sure that you’re picking those pieces mindfully. The first step is to take a look at what’s lying around in your closet.

What helped me was, literally, tossing every jean, sweater, t-shirt, coat, jacket, onto my bed and only adding back the items that I truly loved. It’s an eye-opener and makes you notice the percentage of items you wear regularly. It helped me to decide what I’d hand-down and donate to my local charity shops.

There’s something so satisfying about laying everything out and getting a close view of what you already own and what works well together. I’ve been able to stick to a neutral/muted colour palette as that’s what the majority of my wardrobe is made up of. Important note: if you’re ‘umming’ and ‘ahhing’ about a specific item, it’s a sign that you need to let it go!

Try and limit your capsule to about 35 pieces consisting of tops, bottoms, dresses, outerwear and shoes. While doing so, ask yourself a couple of questions: Can I style this in numerous ways? Is it something I’ll actually wear regularly rather than occasionally? Is it season/weather friendly? Is it durable - can I trust it to last through to the end of the season with repeated wear?

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Pack unwanted items

Once you’ve mindfully selected your capsule pieces, pack everything else and keep it out of sight! It’s so tempting to have a rummage through the black bag of unwanted items now and again, because we’ve gotten bored of what we already have.

Have you got a Depop account? You might even consider re-selling some quality pieces over there. Think of it this way - you’e giving your clothing new life to somebody else. As mentioned above, I donate my old/unwanted items to local charity shops with the intent to keep it in circulation.

Stick with it for three months or until the end of the season

Now you’ve got your capsule and you’re ready to start living in it! The aim here is to only wear the pieces you’ve selected in your capsule, for three months or until the end of the season. I’ve challenged myself to wear my capsule pieces until the end of Winter, hopefully.

Yes, you’ll get bored and will continuously be tempted by the latest fresh, new in pieces but look at the positive side of it - it can certainly help you find your personal style, identify what works best for you and get your creative juices flowing as you consistently create new ensembles that you probably would never have thought of. Most importantly - you’ll be saving money!

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Start all over again!

As you’re nearing the end of your three months or season, you’ll be in a good place to reflect on what worked for you and what didn’t. Did you inject too much colour/prints into your wardrobe, and later realised that you’re a minimalist who just lives in white, grey and black? These discoveries will aid in planning your capsule for the next season. The best part? Being able to fill any gaps in your wardrobe with new items that will work throughout the new season. Notice how you’d only be shopping for pieces at the beginning of each new season, consciously and intentionally.

On a final note, my move towards capsuling honestly feels like weight that has been lifted off my shoulders (or should I say, purse!) as I now have the freedom to remix my key pieces regularly. At the beginning of the season, I made a list of some core items I need to see me through Autumn/Winter. It won’t be easy but I do enjoy a challenge so here’s one for you!

I challenge everyone reading this post, to create a capsule wardrobe for at least three months, documenting your journey through your preferred social media platform (this will probably be Instagram for most people!) or create 10 looks for 10 days using clothing/accessories already in your wardrobe. (make sure to tag me in your posts!)

If you’d rather skip the above challenge and would rather pop me an email or message on Instagram for further advice then feel free to do so. Comments are also welcome below as I’d love to know your thoughts on this post :)

Thanks for reading,

Eunice x

Unravelling The Layers - The Lingerie Edit

Remember the moodboard I curated, here? Well, I’m happy to say that I successfully got around to taking my inspiration and bringing it to life.

One thing I’ve struggled with is coming out of my comfort zone - completely. Even when I was planning this shoot, the thoughts at the back of my mind were, “what will people think of me displaying my intimates online?’ “will this cause people to view me differently?’ It’s common for us to base our decisions on the perception of others and live up to someone else’s expectations. I’m glad to have finally taken part in this studio shoot with Sam. We literally spent the whole day shooting outfits and then building a home studio for my lingerie edit. I hope you guys love the images as much as I do!

These pieces were gifted to me by the lovely ladies over at Bloom & Boudoir. As a young woman with a full(ish) bust, I’ve struggled with lace bralets especially when it comes to concealing the nipples under my clothing and the fit. These are by far the best sets I’ve owned as all issues have been eliminated. I think that deserves a YAY!

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Autumn/Winter Style Inspiration

Moodboard for everyday workwear inspiration and casual weekend getaways.

Image source: Pinterest

Unravelling The Layers - Inspiration For The Lingerie Edit

Moodboard curated for a lingerie edit titled ‘Unravelling The Layers

Image source: Tumblr, Pinterest, Madewell.

Pre-Fall Style Inspiration

Key pieces for the Autumn/Winter transition.

Image source: Tumblr, Pinterest, Khaite Pre Fall 2018 - Vogue UK.

2018 Life Update

Hey guys! Just a quick chit chat on what I’ve been up to and some highlights of 2018. Enjoy!

I've travelled and lived my best life to be honest really. Back in January, I went to Berlin with the craziest bunch of friends. Fast forward to April, I was sipping Pina Coladas by the beach in Corfu, Greece celebrating a friend’s 25th birthday. It was definitely one of my favourite holidays in 2018. Creating our own mini party in the hotel lobby, mingling with tourists and a very memorable boat ride were just one of the many highlights from that trip. Fast forward again to June, I was riding camels and strolling around Le Jardin Majorelle in Morocco.

I also left my old job in May after the most horrendous 12 months working there. I'm now working for Virgin Trains on their Corporate Affairs team and I couldn't be happier. I’ve got the most supportive, down to earth manager, a great team (we’re practically family now!) and a great working environment. Like, I didn't think it was possible to actually look forward to going into work every morning and afternoon. I'm looking forward to growing within the team and utilising every resource available to develop and possibly expand into the wider department. I'm extremely grateful to God for answering my prayers and placing me in an environment where I am loved and don't have to compromise with myself. Oh and the best thing about this job? I've actually got the opportunity to get my creative juices flowing wherever possible - cheers to that!

As far as blogging goes, I started the year on a high creating content, becoming more active on social media, pumped up with enthusiasm and motivation but it eventually all came to a stand still. If I'm completely honest with you, the whole process of building my personal brand became an effort. Working full time drains me and most days I just want to lay in bed. ALL DAMN DAY. Do I feel like I'm done with blogging? Where do I go from here? Am I cut out for this industry? The questions that continuously boggle my mind. 

* UPDATE * I’m feeling super pumped, inspired and motivated for the New Year. Let’s get this blogging thing back on the roll!

Turning 25 made me realise that sh*t has definitely gotten real. Back in my teenage years, I remember mapping out my entire life like for example, settling down and building a family by a certain age. I can confirm that my life has completely geared towards a different direction and you know what, I'm grateful regardless. I'm proud and happy of how far I've come, where I am at the moment and where I will be in the future. I've learnt to live in the present and not worry so much about the future. Yes, I have plans, visions and goals but it's about finding a balance so I don't forget to live in the moment too.

So, where was I? When I turned 25 in July (still accepting birthday presents, btw) I thought about creating a 5 year plan filled with realistic and attainable goals. So my sincerest apologies that I was off the radar. I'm just trying to get my mojo back! Self-learning and self development is key so I'm broadening my horizons, perfecting my skills and learning new ones. The aim is to produce quality and meaningful content that will resonate with you lovely readers. I've spent the last weeks scribbling in my content calendar, contacting photographers and scrolling through various platforms to gain content inspiration for the New Year. Ooh, for the first time in a while, I'm actually excited!

I'm so done with following in the footsteps of what everyone else is doing and feeling like it's mandatory to spend countless hours on social media. I wrote about how I’m controlling this, here. Yes, do the work, remain consistent (still struggling with that!) but my understanding is that success doesn't come overnight. I've learned to accept that and I'm finally in a place where I can say: 'You've got this girl. Everything's actually going to be ok.'  As a millennial, growing up in a generation and "culture of impatience and instant gratification" (Study Breaks, 2017) , there's a certain level of expectation that everything I do needs to be fast, easy and convenient. Accomplishments take time and a degree of patience is required. I'm currently enjoying compiling thoughts and ideas, taking some downtime and just appreciating the beauty of life, no matter what it may throw at me.

On a final note, I appreciate each and everyone of you who have continuously supported me on this long journey :)

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Styling The Linen Blazer - A Spring/Summer Staple

 The ultimate Spring/Summer staple styled with an all white look and tan sandals for chillier days. This mens blazer was thrifted and purchased at a bargain price of £4. My new found love for all things vintage allows me to raid thrift shops first before lurking around on the high street. Does this mean that I'm making the move to shopping at charity and vintage shops? Absolutely.

What I love most about this look and palette is its versatility - being able to style it with some boots for work and sporting the look during a weekend catch up with friends. This outfit will definitely be on repeat next Spring/Summer and I’ve even layered it during Autumn with a turtleneck knit and some knee high boots. The blazer was also one of the pieces selected to form my capsule wardrobe for Autumn/Winter which you can read more about, here.

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summer whites

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Being Unapologetically Me.

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When I relaunched FASHIONENTH, I promised myself that I would start expressing myself, sharing real experiences and making this platform a place where conversations can be generated and people can seek inspiration. I've taken quite some time to really gather my thoughts and recent experiences for today's article titled 'Being unapologetically Me'. The first quarter started on a high, I must say but admittedly, life has thrown some challenges my way which God has given me the strength to overcome. I went through a season where I found myself in complete isolation, compromising my values in certain environments and completely demotivated. Some of the difficulties I faced have been a result of the ongoing battle of being accepted particularly in workplace environments as a young professional (black) woman. However, the purpose of this post is to simply shed light and provide encouragement for anyone who has been going through a state of turmoil. You are not alone and I hope that this article can help you in your current circumstances.

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I scroll through my social feeds daily, stumbling upon stories and conversations that black millennials are discussing. Many of those centred around the topic of growing up as a black woman, forced to conform to western ideals of beauty and compromise their values and beliefs due to the fear of rejection and living up to certain perceptions. In an era, where such discussions are flooding social media platforms, I've found myself enlightened by these recent occurrences and gained a deeper understanding of the type of society I live in. I grew up in a small town in Ireland where I was completely oblivious to the issue of racial prejudice because honestly, I didn't really experience it so for me, the subject of race was one I always avoided due to MY lack of awareness. At some point, I felt like I was immune to or exempt from societal realities of racial prejudices. The dissertation I wrote in my final year of University on 'Black Masculinity' allowed me to touch on the historical and cultural context of slavery, social oppression, and a dehumanising institution. It was an invitation for me to explore political and social matters that have existed from the beginning of time.

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The truth of the matter is that I'm not immune to these senseless acts of ignorance and negative perceptions. As millennials of colour we are pushing boundaries and excelling in our chosen career paths. We (or maybe some) of us find ourselves altering our personalities and who we are in professional and even academic settings to avoid being labeled or living up to society's portrayals of us. Personally, my recent experiences in such environments have affected my ability to express myself emotionally, often concerned about the comfortability of others by just being me. This is particularly common in professional environments where colleagues are automatically intimidated by your presence. The current social and political atmosphere has been an eye-opener. I'm extremely proud that black women are fighting back and unapologetically being themselves.

This is what I've discovered:

Be yourself and be proud of who you are.

Don't allow yourself to be fuelled by the opinions of others. I've been so worried about being accepted, liked or appreciated which has tampered with my identity, undermined my work and efforts and somewhat crushed my self-esteem. But here's the good part - I've never been so aware of my identity in Christ right until now. Knowing that my identity is rooted in Christ lifts that burden. The below verses are a constant reminder:

"I am fearfully and wonderfully made." (Psalm 139:14)

"Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close." (Psalm 27:10)

"...so don't be intimidated by all this bully talk. You're worth more than a million canaries." (Luke 12:6-7)

WOW! You don't need to be liked and accepted by everyone. You don't need the approval of others. God has created me to be me, He loves me unconditionally and accepts EVERY part of me. It's so easy to lose sight of this but going back to the Word helps me see things in a completely different perspective. My identity is not rooted in my race. Yes, there will be obstacles that I'll need to overcome but I'm going into my environment with a fresh outlook, being the best that I can possibly be, succeeding in my endeavours, showing love and kindness whether I am rejected or not. In all honesty, it's so easy to be thrown off course from your goals and ambitions due to office politics etc but do not let anyone undermine your abilities and have an emotional hold on you. Be unapologetically you.

* UPDATE * This article was written during a time I worked in a Marketing agency - my first career job after graduating from University. What should have been an exciting period in my life at that time turned out to be the most disappointing and negative experience ever. It triggered my anxiety and depression. I am now the happiest I can ever be in my current workplace. It was definitely God sent. You can read more about my new role and company, here.

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Photography by Ebun

Wearing// COS jacket, REISS jeans, ZARA shoes, Rayban glasses

3 Things I've Learned About Valentine's Day

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Valentine’s Day was probably one of the occasions that I hyped up the most – spending countless weeks planning getaways and date night ideas with my other half, splurging cash on gifts, a new lingerie set and the perfect LBD to mark the occasion. It pains me to think about how much coins I could have saved over this period! Kudos to all the brands and companies raking in substantial amounts of cash flow through their relentless marketing efforts.

As the beginning of February ticks down to the 14th, I find myself surrounded by couples who hold the day in high esteem as well as singles who share their hate for the holiday of love. I mean, each to their own but I neither love or despise V-Day. In the past, I’ve shared Valentines Lookbooks, tips, etc on how to mark this occasion with a significant other and I truly enjoyed it. In this post, I’ve decided to share 3 things I’ve learnt about Valentines Day as a single bee.

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Valentine’s Day is NOT just about romance.

Appreciate your loved ones and extend love to those who need it. I don’t believe that love should only be celebrated on one day of the year or for the celebration of love to be limited to romantic love. Platonic love and the love we express to our friends and families are equally as important and worthy to be celebrated, just as much as romantic love. We learn to genuinely appreciate love for what it is rather than a force filled day that reeks of consumerism.

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Self-sufficiency.

I’m proud of the independent life that I'm continuously trying to create for myself. Your season of singleness enlightens and allows you to take pride in the person that God has created you to be – which means not needing a relationship to rescue yourself from the fear of loneliness and isolation. The way I’ve combatted this is by appreciating and enjoying my own company, to treat myself occasionally on spontaneous dates and spoil myself responsibly. This all stems from the moment you feel secure in yourself and are able to turn your love inwards too.

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Social media can impact one’s emotional well-being – only if you allow it to.

Romantic posts and Instagram photos pretty much circulate social media on the calendar’s most romantic day, with the potential to heighten the feeling of loneliness and possibly jealousy. Even when I celebrated Valentines Day in my previous relationships, I always found myself in a state of comparison – comparing other people’s experiences and material possessions to mine. It can be a really difficult emotion to deal with and can make you feel that people are rubbing their happiness in your face. If Valentines Day erupts those emotions in you then the best thing to do is to suspend all social media activity for the day. Close it down and just walk away. Also, remember that not everything portrayed on social media represents a perfect relationship. There are matters people battle with behind closed doors so enjoy your period of singleness, nurture yourself and just do you!

“You have to be a happy you before you can create a happy ‘two’ “

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The New Year Purge: Freeing Yourself From Excess

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I feel so blessed to be alive and well and to be able to enter the new year with my loved ones. I'm not huge on sharing personal goals across my social platforms so don't worry I won't bore you with a list of to-do's in today's post. Instead, I want to engage in conversation with each of you regarding an issue I experienced in the previous year - Excess, which I think could really inspire you. With the new year upon us, and the resolution-making frenzy in full effect, many of us (myself included) will be decluttering our personal spaces but what, and how much, do you get rid of?

After reading Issue 16 of The Gentlewoman, I came across an article discussing how "these are times when emotion and sensation are more representative proxies for the modern state of being - a receptiveness to experience that is the true luxury of our era." Under this article, the six motifs that were mentioned include: Devotion, Excess, Entrainment, Anonymity, Surrender and Fascination. Excess really caught my attention as I pictured my self in the author's shoes, who sees "the world as divided into the excessives, who suffer from that fear of empty space - generous types with volatile tempers who believe More is More - and the measured, who appreciate midcentury modern, purge their wardrobes..." Today we live in a consumer culture where we always need to be buying more. It could be due to social influence, peer influence etc but whatever motivates us to do so, we continuously fill our lives to the brim with items we think we need. For a split second, think about this - do we really need all this excess?

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“Knowledge is learning something new every day.  Wisdom is letting go of something every day”

Our needs, wants, possessions etc can become excess. A valuable lesson I learnt in 2017 is that having more in our lives or buying into the concept that more is better can mean we miss living in the moment. I found myself constantly waiting for my life to be complete with more and striving for a day that does not align with where God wants me to be. I was in a state of deferred living, always assuming that what I have now is not enough. I decided to escape from this predicament by starting with the simplest thing to rid myself of - all my unwanted items. For those of you who know me personally, you'll know that my wardrobe has always been doing the most! When I decided to donate 80% of my items to charities in my city (20% went to my younger sisters), it was definitely refreshing letting go of all the unnecessary clutter. I'm aiming towards a journey to simplicity and less. Over the last year, I started to accumulate more in my life. More material possessions, more commitments, more financial responsibilities and more hassle. Alongside this, I felt like less of my time was, my time. And even when I made time to focus on my own work, it normally resulted in procrastination as I no longer had the motivation or the willingness due to everything else I had committed myself to. Here's to not being afraid to say 'no thanks,’ guys!

In an age where being 'busy' is glorified, I was in motion a lot of the time but wasn't really making the most out of my life. I had bought into the concept of more and that more would be the answer. I had lost track of any goals I had committed myself to, and most importantly, I did not dedicate my time to friends and family.

In this period of reflecting, I've started to identify more of what I truly want in life. It's also a period for me to uncover those things I would rather be without. This can also be applied to relationships etc.

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Here are just some of my reflective thoughts:

Seek out books, seminars, workshops that will challenge my thinking, help me build my brand and aid in my personal development.

Take action. The time is NOW. Not tomorrow.

Peel back and eliminate what doesn't matter.

Extract myself from commitments I have no interest in being at or cause some sort of convenience to my daily schedule. The other option is to also seek help and advice with these commitments. I'm always up for helping someone and adding value in any way I can so I will try to remain diligent in this, without getting myself into a state!

Feel less guilty about saying 'no thanks.' 

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Wearing// H&M Blazer (similar), H&M Jumper, Mango Jeans (similar), Mango Boots (similar), Primark Beret (similar)

Remove distractions and excuses I'm making to myself. 

Focus more on the things and the people that are important to me. Tomorrow is not promised - show love and kindness to others, reach out a helping hand, devote time to family and friends.

Invest in experiences - be spontaneous! Don't let others dictate what you can or cannot do.

Accumulate fewer material possessions and use my disposable income to travel, attend events, dine, and occasionally top up on key pieces in my wardrobe that I can wear throughout the year. You can read more on how I’ve achieved this, here. After all, less is more.

I'd love to know if this post has encouraged you in some way so please feel free to leave a comment below :)

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Dublin, Ireland

Shot by @o.shea.o

It's Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas

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Christmas trees are up, the neighbour's over the top lights are visible from miles away and we're ringing in the holiday cheer with some classic, beloved Christmas films. (Home Alone, anybody?) Duvet days also become acceptable especially when you're snowed in but hey, I'm not complaining. Having said that, we can all agree that Christmas is a stressful time of year too. With numerous Christmas parties, outings, gift exchanges and shopping, it can all get overwhelming.

What does Christmas mean to you? To me, Christmas is about celebrating the birth of Jesus and spending time with friends and family. We grow up celebrating Christmas with our families but after we move away as young adults, it becomes more difficult. From being a University student, part time retail assistant and now in the professional field, trust me I know the struggle. After 4 years living away from my family, Christmas is the perfect time to reconnect, spread Christmas cheer, attend church services together and gratefully eat Christmas dinner, nom! I also cherish Christmas reunions with my childhood friends, cracking jokes and reminiscing on the good old days - what more can you ask for?

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We speak about the hustle and bustle of everyday life, making excuses and tend to forget how lucky we are to have shelter, food on the table and people that genuinely care for us. There are so many people in the world that do not have the same luxuries as the rest of us and for that, I remain thankful not just at Christmas but every single day.

Gratitude. Kindness. Compassion

Now is a good time to show gratitude for the people who anchor you. Taking some time to be appreciative of what you have in your life, is what will make the most difference to you.

People you are close to, or friends that are not near, but have impacted you in some way - they matter.

Taking time to feel the gratitude - This is what matters.

Expressing that gratitude - It matters.

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I thought I'd steer up this post by showing some enthusiasm for Christmas, but I'm sure you've been waiting for the outfit details. Are you ready to get the low down on the outfits featured in this post? Keep reading, sweet pea(s)...

So, I had the honour of shooting in London with the beaut Alisha Dandy. I selected 4 looks for this editorial - The Faux Fur Jacket, The Velvet Dress, The Suit and The Sequins. I opted for some easy and wearable Christmas outfits which YOU can even incorporate into your festive wardrobe. Instead of packing away these pieces come January, I can assure you that I've found plenty of ways to wear them after the holidays. A lot of people think the glitz and glam of Christmas equates to 'drama dressing' but let's be real - you don't have to be adorned in glamorous glitter or even have to strut in the BADDEST dress. Make do with the simple things. Following on from my current obsession with all things minimal but stylish, I've selected 4 pieces this season that I can even incorporate into my work wardrobe. You know you're getting old when all you care about is finding the right outfits for work... sigh!

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The Faux Fur Coat

I have to say that I am a massive fan of all coats faux fur currently available on the high street.

Grey Faux Fur Coat

Turtleneck Sweater

Pencil Skirt

Over The Knee Boots

A velvet dress paired with ankle boots

My go-to outfit for the office!

Printed Velvet Dress

Ankle Boots

A Cord suit

The fashionista in me wants to take her suit game to another level! I'm blending in with Christmas, sporting a dark green corduroy suit and red turtleneck knit.

Corduroy Suit

& Turtleneck Sweater

Sparkle and Sequins

I love me some subtle shine.

 Sequin Top (Similar)

Side Slit Satin Trousers (Similar)

Kitten Heel Mules

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A Day Out In London.

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The idea of spending a day in London excites me but a part of me has always found it quite daunting. After all, London is a big city and everyone is constantly on the go and to be honest, I can't keep up with it. I'm not afraid to admit that I cannot deal with the hustle & bustle but I'm slowly getting used to it. When I met Alisha Dandy in London for this shoot, I realised that Sundays in London are simply the best. We were shooting around Somerset House and there was just a tranquil vibe circulating the atmosphere. Who would have thought that I would be able to walk into a quiet cafe in London or not get trampled on by pedestrians whilst walking on the street? Maybe I'm just an amateur and need to get over myself but I don't want to believe that I'm the only one that feels like this. Anyone?

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For many of you who follow me on Instagram, you're probably aware of how much I've been living in this cardigan from COS. Good knitwear is simply something you really can't have too much of. Made from a heavyweight wool-silk blend with a speckled quality, this is the perfect boxy, rectangular shaped knit for the cold weather. For maximum comfort, I've paired with my 'not so Gucci' mules from Ego.

* UPDATE * Two years later, I still own both the cardigan and mules - still intact too! However, the trousers certainly don’t fit anymore!

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Photography by @alishadandy

I'm looking forward to discovering more of London, perhaps even doing some sightseeing and checking out some cool spots! I'd love to hear your recommendations, let me know in the comments below :)

Until next time,

Eunice

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Packing Light For A Weekend City Trip

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Howdy, everyone! A group getaway has been planned - 4 nights in Budapest, yay! I’ll be travelling with 14 of the most craziest humans and we’ll all be staying in an AirBnb apartment. I can't even begin to tell you guys how excited I am, for the endless laughter, fun and sheer madness. Now it’s time to think about how I can pack strategically, efficiently and even stylishly.

I’ve always been that girl who packs the same amount of items as if I was packing for one week, resulting in an overload of items that do not work well together, therefore unable to wear. It’s worse when you’ve prepared to take that perfect #ootd shot and realise that all you’ve done is throw random pieces of clothing into a suitcase. I’m definitely speaking from experience and have realised that less is actually more. This is why I've decided to publish an article titled 'Packing Light For A Weekend Trip.'

Gone are the days where I feel the need to pack an entire closet. I’ve created two mood boards to convey my ideas and hope that it can be a source of inspiration to anyone struggling with packing light for a short trip. Thank God for Tumblr and Pinterest as I can rely on both platforms to provide me with a daily dose of inspiration. I mean that’s how I discovered It girl, Jeanne Damas who is the epitome of chic and has influenced my perception of style tremendously.

A good rule of thumb that I've adopted is editing down my clothing choices to simple essentials. For a weekend break, I've limited myself to about three to six outfits, evening wear included. I'm sticking to one colour story - solids and soft neutrals which will mainly be worn with denim and styled with gold jewellery. Urban sojourns call for longline coats (I only bring one coat and that's the one I'm normally wearing to and from the airport and in black or navy), a blazer, one or two shirts, two pairs of jeans (straight leg jeans are currently my favourite!), three to four jumpers and two or three pairs of shoes depending on what you're doing - black heels, a pair of boots and sneakers. That doesn't sound too bad right?

When it comes to planning outfits for a night out in the city, it's an absolute nightmare which I'm sure you can all agree with. Like how do you flaunt those legs without freezing your a*s off? I'm not a fan of the good old 20 denier hosiery so 99.9% of the time I suck it up and just bare it all. For Budapest, I'm going for chic and elevated:

Classic Black Blazer

Oversized Check Blazer

Straight Leg Jeans

Black Heels

A Pair of Ankle Boots

Silk Blouse

Skinny Jeans

A Little Black Dress

All of the above can easily be styled with a longline coat for extra warmth whilst strolling from bar to bar but being the rebel that I am, I'm more than likely going to ditch the coat.

I'll be capturing all my outfits for the duration of my stay so keep an eye out on fashionenth for all the #ootds. Have you got any trips planned in the new year? I'd love to know how you're planning on packing light for your weekend trip!

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images sourced from Tumblr & Pinterest.

Welcome To FASHIONENTH

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Well hello everyone! Welcome to FASHIONENTH. I can't believe that my blog is finally up and running and that I have fuelled enough confidence to share my passion with you all, again. Before I start, I 'd advise you to grab a cuppa if you haven't already as this is quite a lengthy post but interesting, I promise! I've got so much to share with you guys and I hope that my journey can really inspire anyone who is currently looking to step out into the blogging industry or build their own brand. So shall we?

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I graduated from Birmingham City University in July 2017 after studying Fashion Business & Promotion for 3 years. Graduating was definitely one of my many highlights of 2017. I managed to get a job as a Social Media Executive here in Birmingham. I was truly grateful, and still am, but I knew that there was something missing. (A LOT was missing as my first career job completely flopped - you can find out why, here.)

During my final year of University, I completely gave up on blogging and abandoned my previous website for months as well as my social media platforms. I no longer had a passion for it and looking back now, it wasn't only because of the final year stress and workload, but I genuinely didn't have the heart for it anymore. Everything just seemed like an effort and I completely lost all motivation. As you are all probably aware, the blogging industry has become overly saturated and my main fear was not being good enough, and that people just wouldn't care about the content I created. I was driving myself insane with all these random thoughts and the saddest part about it is that I spent all that time contemplating, thinking 'what if..' rather than just stepping forward and giving it a go.

Starting my job as a Social Media Exec ignited my passion for all things social and digital. Deep down I knew that I didn't just want to work full time in an office, go home, and repeat. My style has evolved over the last few years and what better way to document my style journey than to produce visual and written content! You see, I've got long-term goals I hope to achieve through my new platform, as well as valuable skills to learn and gain along the way. I've had to combat the idea of not being good enough and align my thoughts with my goals and ambitions. I'm so glad that FASHIONENTH has gone through a complete makeover and please expect to see some awesome content!

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Photography by @alishadandy

In relation to the overall design, I've decided to go for a fresh website theme. My vision was to create a platform that would be of a minimal aesthetic, and easy to navigate. The new look definitely goes hand in hand with my own personal style revamp. I've decluttered my wardrobe and invested in some key pieces that I would describe as 'sophisticated with an edge.' Those of you who know me personally will know that I've spent the last few years experimenting with the wildest colours and outfit choices. Working full time in a corporate environment office has completely influenced my style choices. I'd now rather invest in basic key pieces that I can pair together with pretty much anything! You know, just simple and easy to throw on in the mornings - effortless.

I'm really working on my brand image at the moment, making sure that it remains coherent and consistent across ALL platforms.

I hope that you guys are just as excited as I am about my website :)

I would love for you to voice your opinions, excitement, constructive criticism, whatever it is! I'm also interested to know what type of style-related content you'd love to see! Please comment below.

Until next time,

Eunice

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Styling The Faux Fur Biker Jacket

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The time has finally come. It's getting darker earlier, and we can now dig out all of our Winter coats. With the recent weather conditions, I can actually say that I've finally got the 'Autumn feels.' Whilst I was out randomly window shopping, I came across this beautiful faux fur biker jacket in Whistles. Even before I had tried it on, I had fallen in love with it over and over again in my head.

I love everything about this jacket - the colour, shape and fit. Just sheer perfection. I purchased it around September 2016, fast forward a couple of years and it’s still perfect. The first time I wore it was actually on the day of this shoot in London. It's the perfect Autumn/Winter piece amongst the many on the high street, and I've simply just paired it with some straight jeans, a turtleneck and my metallic silver boots.

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Photography by @alishadandy

Whistles Faux Fur Biker Jacket

When Burgundy is worn with metallics, it transforms it from a wonderfully understated colour into a rich and regal tone. Silver gives you a perfect and cool contrast to deep red. I've kept my accessories quite simple just opting for some earrings to avoid throwing off the rest of my outfit. This jacket is definitely a piece that will take me from chilly October evenings right through until the unbearable temperatures in February. I've toned down the palettes in my wardrobe, playing around with some key staples and incorporating some colour pop textures. If you're looking to inject a little fun into your wardrobe without being over the top, then this faux fur biker jacket in a subtle burgundy tone, is exactly what you need. What outerwear pieces are you investing in this season?

Until next time,

Eunice

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